Words like "forever" are spread thruout love songs as if they were propaganda. These words are not romantic, if you think about it. Is a "life sentence" romantic?
For your own peace of mind: Do not use words like "forever" or "eternal" in any of your relationships. Maybe I sound too philosophical here, but nothing is forever, thus you'd introduce a lie into your partnership and you'd probably break your own "eternal" word by leaving your partner.
Also the concept of "Till death do us part" is another factor in this misconception of relationships. It can even make you wish that your partner "should die" to stop this oath. Have you ever seen old couples who hate each other? Unspoken or outspoken? Is this the life you want to live just for the sake of "Only Mr. Death has the power to decide when to stop our relationship"?
In our fast changing times it is very uncommon to meet a partner and stay with him for the rest of the life. Thus we can safely assume that it is not unusual if your partner will NOT be the last or probably will be not the best of all possible partners.
How about making your goal to stay with your partner, say, 2 years? You can always re-decide to stay longer. But by making unrealistic goals like "We will stay together until we die = for the next 57 years" makes you run directly into a failure. And why should you fail totally unnecessary?
Are you religious and do you believe that every marriage is for eternity? I don't have any real argument against this, since one cannot argue very well with beliefs. But if you believe in eternal love, you might as well believe that "suffering in marriage is god's test". I don't know why god should test us via marital troubles, but maybe this explains why god isn't married.
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